“disgusting!! where are your hearts, your humanity, i am amazed in this day and age that people can act like this, jo has suffered enough as has her family, ryan brothers and sister.. i feel for you all, nettleham parish council.. you are heartless, i know other graves in the same graveyard which have been neglected and some with memorabillia on , so why target jo??? do you sleep at night?? if so you dont have a heart just a swinging brick! and i am embarrased for you! shame shame shame on you!!!”

“It was the same for me Mik and another mum I know .. we were NOT told we could not leave gifts and special items, in fact I picked st swithins because it was so full of love .. you could see all the special gifts. Ours started because some moaning git decided they did not like the wind chimes! making a noise and distraction! Oh the arguements and evilness that lot kicked up! it all got too much at xmas when i could not leave the tree, which i put every year for everyone to decorate. Its put secure and its not a hazard. I just didnt want to breathe anymore after that news, much the same as Jo. So councils all over .. is it ok to make people feel so bad? To the point I have the exhumation papers, ready and wating for the time it finally all kicks in at st swithins cos I too can not live with my son having nothing on his grave. You are killing us inside.”

“Shep , how can an election be held if all places are unopposed? Did people turn up and place a cross beside the one name on the sheet? smacks of Stalinism that one.
There was no election , they just appointed 12 self serving "volunteers".
Yes there should have been people ready to stand against them and it is sad that the general public are apathetic to such lowly unpaid posts. its an unfortunate fact that these positions seem to attract power crazed people that were bullied at school.
BUT the fact remains these people have no public mandate.to make decisions which affect peoples lives ,especially with no valid reason. The only reason they could give was to make the ground easier to maintain. When 90% of the graves are exempt from the rule , ( only graves after a certain date need comply) and the fact that oanne maintains Ryan's to a better standard , there is no need for the rule. There are graves adjacent to Ryans with dead Xmas wreathes on them , others completely overgrown with wild flowers, how is this an acceptable state of maintenance?
And worse than that having a system in place which expects someone to sign a document between the death of a child and the funeral , and then try to say it is a legally binding agreement , beggars belief.”

“well said Mik. a lot of peoples sentiments there voiced by you :) :) lets hope their cocoa leaves a bitter after taste tonight :)”

“parish council paaah , nowt like kicking someone when their already down eh ???? i hope you can all sleep soundly at night knowing you have ripped this mothers world apart all over again !!!!!”

“The woman on the council who was good friends with the family and went on holiday with them.... how can you look at yourself in the mirror? can u smell the guilt with each breath u take and taste the bitterness of betrayal?”

“Jo,
Myself and loads of others are behind you 100% hun ... we will help you all the way! Nettleham Parish Council should be bloody ashamed and hang their heads ... do the honourable thing and resign because you're not there to serve the people ... ARE YOU ? This is tyranny and oppression ... this family have been ripped apart by this tradegy and all you can do is pour more acid into the already deeply inflicted wounds that Ryan's passing left. As far as I can see from the pictures ... is Ryan's resting place ... hazardous ? unsightly ? causing obstruction ? otherwise inaapropriate ? NO, NO, NO and NO so why take away this one thing that illustrates the life of Ryan that brings comfort and is exceptionally significant in the grieving process. I hope none of you ever have to go through this but you might have more empathy if you did !!!”

“Well i think the parish council should be ashamed of themselves this is very sad that a lady who has lost her son has to take away the one thing that makes her still feel close to him.. mayeb the council should take a think what if it was them who lost there child what if they were her and she was taking it away from them.. i mean its bad enough a child dies before there parents without this happening after.
And like bill says does this affect your or our lifes no but it sure does this poor lady.
SHAME ON YOU !!!!!”

“congratulations to nettleham council for winning your fight.12 against 1 woman is good odds.While you are on a roll how about upholding some of your other byelaws like after dark intrusion on playing fields and obstruction of pavements.or is this to much trouble for you.I have a great sympathy for Jo having been through the same experience 20 years ago and this sort of treatment does not help.The council members should suffer the same then they may look at it in a different light.I am ashamed to live in nettleham under these conditions.”

“There was a Parish Council election in Nettleham on May 6 and every place was uncontested. If the people of Nettleham really feel that their Parish Council is wrong then maybe one of them should have stood up and offered to do the job in their place.”