YOU report ('Precious time to say goodbye to my baby' July 12) how Caitlin Sorrell lost a baby and how the Sands charity helped her.

In 2008, I found out that I was pregnant. When I went to my dating scan, I found out that I was having twins.

When my partner Kevin and I went to the next scan, we found out that the twins were not growing properly and that it could be something called twin to twin transfusion.

So doctors could diagnose this properly, they sent us to Queen's Medical Centre in Nottingham, where it was confirmed.

They explained to us what the condition was – where the blood vessels on the placenta were going to just one of the twins and the other wasn't getting much oxygen or blood, which meant that this twin was going to be a lot smaller.

The doctors explained that there was a procedure that could be done but we would have to go to Birmingham Women's Hospital.

So we made an appointment and had the procedure done.

It consisted of a small operation and after it was done we had to wait a few hours before having a scan.

We had the scan done and the doctor gave us the bad news that one of the twins had died – the smaller baby.

We were so distraught and upset, as I'm sure anybody can imagine.

We then went home, very upset, and a few weeks later my waters broke with the other twin and we were told that we would have to abort the baby because it wouldn't survive.

So yet again we had to go to Nottingham to have this done, after that I had to go to Lincoln maternity where we were showed to the Sands room.

It was there that I was put into labour and gave birth to the twins on November 5, 2008. The midwives explained everything to both me and my partner – they were so kind and helpful.

They explained we could speak to the chaplain who explained our options for the funeral and what we could do.

We had a naming ceremony and called the boys Bailey Ross and Tyler James.

When we had the ceremony, we were able to have family and friends around us in the room.

After this, we were allowed to spend a couple of days in the Sands room, where we had time with our children and were able to hold them and cuddle them.

The midwives were very supportive.

We had the funeral on November 21, when we said our very last goodbyes

If it wasn't for the Sands charity, we wouldn't have known the first place to start and what to do.

It helped me to cope and understand that, even though the babies are not here in person, they will always be in my heart.

AMANDA WHEELER Lincoln.